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Well, if Spike Lee says so…

So, imagine my surprise when friends started calling me up to talk about Spike Lee’s new movie, ChiRaq. Now, a new Spike Lee movie is ALWAYS cause for conversation in certain circles, and mine is no exception. But my friends insisted that this particular movie would be even more interesting to me. The storyline? Women withholding sex to stop the violence in Chicago. Hello! Now that got my attention.


GQ magazine reported that Spike Lee thinks that sex strikes will become “a thing”. Truth be told, such strikes were already a thing and have been used time and time again, on the small stage (at home) and on the larger stage (politically). But hey, if Spike is talking about this, let’s see what can happen.


Chiraq opens in theatres on December 4. Let’s keep the conversation going. #ChiraqTheMovie

Must Read: I Wish I Had A Red Dress

Pearl Cleage’s compelling story of young women struggling in relationships with criminal or violent men and raising their children has all the bases covered: women who are facing cycles of boredom, poverty, low self-esteem, but come together to learn to be “free women;” men who are frustrated and angered by lack of opportunities and trapped in a fruitless quest for respect; a mother who is unwilling or unable to take responsibility for her sons that terrorize both the community that they live in and the women they claim to love; a well-meaning, overzealous social worker, the ever-present funding crisis, wise elders, community deterioration alongside hopeful innovation, and the requisite amount of drama, judgement, friendships and love. I Wish I Had A Red Dress is a must-read for anyone, male or female, committed to social programs for young people, gun control, stopping violence against women…and the list goes on. If you’ve already read it, share your thoughts. If you haven’t read it, please do, and then tell us what you think. I especially like the character Tee (Tomika) who is already on the “guns get none” ideology, turning her back on the kind of relationships she has always known and holding out for her own “Denzel” — her best idea of a do-right man.

Bottom line: you may not agree with everything, or anything, in the book but it’s still worth the conversation.

Lessons in the Lyrics: Guns (Spice and Company)

Carnival time! Bacchanal time! Wine up yuh waist to this classic soca hit. Ladies, forget about the gangstas, and stick with the man who knows the right kind of gun to use (and you better keep the safety on THAT one too, come to think about it!). Thank you, Spice and Company: knowledge is power AND fun!

Too many guns in dis town,

Too many guns passing round!

Too many guns in dis town,

Too many guns passing round!

Is every day you open de paper

All you read ‘bout is murder.

Man, this ting here is sad,

But de whole damn world goin mad!

This one have a gun, that one have a gun

Man they gon shoot each other for fun.

When the men kill the men all that remain is women.

It is then I gon have me fun,

It is then I gon draw me gun,

It is then I gon take the chance,

Cause the only gun I got is the gun inside me…

This one have a gun, that one have a gun

Man they gon shoot each other for fun.

When the men kill the men all that remain is women.

It is then I gon have me fun,

It is then I gon draw me gun,

It is then I gon take the chance,

I gon kill them with romance!

We can do better!

I think this is a brilliant idea – alongside others too, but I think that we as mothers and lovers of these men do enable these forms of manhood/masculinity when it simply only serves to nurture this cancer of violence amongst us. To me, what I read is that we need new definitions and understandings of masculinity, fatherhood, femininity and motherhood and how we relate to each other in all our relationships. I remember Malcolm X and Tupac saying this as well and we really can do this. I want many people to read [this idea] so I will repost it. It’s really shifting the paradigm for us to think about different ways we can step up as members of our community and literally SHAME those who only want to breed violence OUT – out of their anger, out of the stereotypical box they exist in and out of our communities if need be as a last resort. It’s tough love really…I have been so saddened by Monday’s occurrence. There is hope…and I do not want to get lost in the abyss of hopelessness, so what [we’re discussing] is the possibility of hoping and knowing WE CAN DO BETTER. — Tope A.

I wish everyone would play along!

Now I just wish everyone would play along! We as women also need to start holding our men responsible and stop giving them immunity, places to sleep/hide, hold on to their illegal stuff, depend on them for our own self worth…HOLD THEM TO THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF BEING A FATHER!!! We have to re-learn the REAL meaning of ACCOUNTABILITY and LOVE and PROSPECTIVE. WE need to shift our value system and begin to affect change every day with the people we come in connection/contact with. Some times the task of change seem daunting…BUT IT CAN BE DONE through conscious living one person at a time. — Michelle D

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